Why traveling is important to me

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This week I was all set to chronicle our trip to Paris but as I sat at the computer I started to reflect on what it all meant to me. Why did I love travelling so much and why did it evoke so much emotion in me when I travelled? Well I am going to share two very personal reasons why travelling means so much to me.Growing up I never thought we were poor. Thinking back to my childhood days I still don’t. If we were to analyze it from a strictly economic stand point using all the creditworthy monetary measures of poverty, well then, we may have been on the wrong side of the tax bracket. But the fact that we never felt wanting in any way is a testament almost in whole to my Mother. Don’t get me wrong, I was somewhat distantly aware that my friend’s houses looked bigger than ours and the contents of their houses newer and shinier, but our humble home was a content one. My mother did everything in her worldly power to make sure we were never without. She worked two and even three jobs at times so that she could send us to the best schools and provide the best start for us. Looking back, I am in awe at her achievements. On weekends, she saw to it that we had ample extra-curricular activities to make us well-rounded kids. I remember we grew up doing things that I now understand are “rich kids” activities all thanks to her. This is the first reason I travel, as a way to pay homage to my Mother. I have seen my Mother struggle through some tough times and held her head up high and has always put her Children first. I know that had her life been different, she would have loved to see the world. Well, she sacrificed tooth and nail to make sure that we got the best education and the best life possible, so it is my duty to live that life. Seeing the joy in my mother’s eyes when I share my travel pictures or hearing the elation in her voice is the most gratifying feeling in the world. It is a living testimony to her success. Yay! Mom we made it!

The second reason I travel is a much more somber one. My mother was away a lot as she juggled multiple jobs to provide for us so my brother’s and I made do with each other. As the oldest I assumed a motherly role to my two siblings and together we made it work. I would prepare dinner for them which we ate together and pack lunch to carry to school the next day. At lunchtime, we sat together just like we did in our humble tin roofed home and enjoyed each other’s company. We were each other’s support system. One dreadful afternoon while we were swimming, which was one of the many wonderful activities that our Mother engaged us in, my brother had a terrible accident and drowned. I will spare all the gruesome details of this frightful day but it changed our lives completely.

Our once close-knit family unit started to come undone at the seams. Loss as it often does, tore as apart inside and out. As the immediate care giver to my brother’s I was ravished by guilt. One of the ways I overcame the grief was to swear to myself that I would live the best possible life for me and for my deceased brother. Not only did I owe it to him but also, he wouldn’t want it any other way. Every time I embark on a new journey I take a bit of him with me and I know he is watching over me, smiling and saying, “you go girl!”.

38 Thoughts to "Why traveling is important to me"


  1. Bendnter on December 9, 2017 at 6:21 pm

    Thank you for sharing this personal journey, I loved it. Keep it up.

  2. Alice on December 9, 2017 at 8:50 pm

    Wow Sly, you writing is amazing, and the story is very touching, straight from your heart. Well done love!

  3. Alice on December 9, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    The story is very touching, straight from your heart, and your writing is amazing. Well done love!

    • twosidedcoin on December 9, 2017 at 9:03 pm

      Thanks for stopping by my darling Alice. Thanks for your support over the years and your Love. I definitely had tissues next to me as I wrote this piece but also healing for me ♥️♥️♥️

  4. J. Endress on December 10, 2017 at 10:33 am

    Wow. Really powerful, really beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

    • twosidedcoin on December 10, 2017 at 10:45 am

      Thanks for visiting J.Endress and glad you enjoyed my story♥️👍🏾

  5. Baja on December 10, 2017 at 11:34 am

    Way to go gal…your courage to share your story will allow others to hopefully realize that they too can do it…keep sharing.

    • twosidedcoin on December 10, 2017 at 11:39 am

      Thank you so much for sharing in my journey. I do hope that my stories will have a positive impact no matter how small that may be. Come back soon.

  6. Kanisha Renee on December 10, 2017 at 11:38 am

    Awesome Sly! I appreciate you’re way of taking what many would consider pain points and reframing them to be drivers of your passion🖤

    • Kanisha Renee on December 10, 2017 at 11:39 am

      *your 😊

    • twosidedcoin on December 10, 2017 at 11:44 am

      Thank you Kanisha Renee! That is exactly what I try to do! Thank you for reading, hope you come back often. Much love.

  7. Linda Kazibwe-James on December 10, 2017 at 4:14 pm

    Tears, Sly! This is a beautiful tribute to your early life, your mother and your brother..,all essential parts of you and the habits and practices you’ve established in your life! <3

    • twosidedcoin on December 10, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Thank you Linda! Your words mean so much to me. Yes, this was a very personal piece and I appreciate you for being part of it. Come back often.

  8. CALEB K MUIBU on December 10, 2017 at 7:45 pm

    This is such a powerful post and story cousin. Keep the travels going, its for a much higher calling and purpose.

    • twosidedcoin on December 10, 2017 at 7:55 pm

      Thanks for stopping by cousin! I had a Kleenex box with me as I wrote this piece. Thank you for the encouragement🤗

  9. Hannah Denton on December 11, 2017 at 7:02 am

    I totally agree! This is so important. Make the most out of life girlie!

    • twosidedcoin on December 12, 2017 at 3:17 pm

      Thank you for stopping by Hannah. I will!!

  10. Nancy on December 11, 2017 at 9:11 am

    Mama Silvia’s hard work really paid off. What a beautiful story. I am amazed by your journeys and story telling. Thanks again for sharing. Waiting for more.

    • twosidedcoin on December 12, 2017 at 3:19 pm

      Thank you so Much Nancy! Your support means so much to me. Yes, Moms hard work and sacrifices definitely paid off and I am more than grateful.

  11. Wanjiru on December 11, 2017 at 11:37 am

    Powerful and beautifully written. Thank you for sharing your story. Keep traveling and being the light that you are.

    • twosidedcoin on December 12, 2017 at 3:21 pm

      Thank you Wanjiru for your kind words, they are truly appreciated. With support like yours, I am happy to keep sharing. Come back soon for more.

  12. Jasmine on December 11, 2017 at 7:40 pm

    Wow! Didn’t expect this but I loved it! Thanks for sharing such a personal story <3

    • twosidedcoin on December 11, 2017 at 8:42 pm

      Hey Jasmine thanks for stopping by and glad you loved it. 💝💝💝I did return the favor on your blog but had a little trouble trying to input my info on your comments. The name,email and website don’t align on the mobile. Please check it out on your mobile 🤗come back next week for more👍🏾

  13. Binti Massawe on December 12, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    Very encouraging sly.

    • twosidedcoin on December 13, 2017 at 3:36 pm

      Thank you Binti! I am glad it had a positive effect, I hope you come back often.

    • twosidedcoin on December 14, 2017 at 9:49 am

      Thanks for checking out the Blog Balbinah. Your comments mean a lot and come back for more later this week♥️♥️

  14. Madeleine on December 19, 2017 at 8:48 pm

    Warm, personal, beautiful and heartfelt. Thanks for sharing that part of you.
    Happy travels.

    • twosidedcoin on December 30, 2017 at 1:08 pm

      Hey Madeleine thank you so much for taking the time to check out the Blog. Come back soon for me next week and subscribe so you don’t miss all the exciting stuff we shall be sharing♥️

  15. Dama on December 30, 2017 at 11:24 am

    Very touching! Enjoyed reading it….

    • twosidedcoin on December 30, 2017 at 1:10 pm

      Thank you so much Dama for checking out the Blog. Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss the new post next week♥️

  16. Nina | Lemons and Luggage on January 5, 2018 at 8:00 am

    Lovely! Keep traveling and exploring the world!

    • twosidedcoin on January 5, 2018 at 12:06 pm

      Thank you for checking out the Blog and come back again. Visited your Blog as well and the post on Hamburg was very insightful.

  17. Maricela on March 3, 2018 at 8:12 pm

    Sylvia you’re an amazing young lady. You’re an angel!!! I love reading about your travels, your experiences and stories. You’re an amazing writer. Through your writings I can feel your excitement, your joy, a plethora of feelings, I can also feel your pain for your loss. Thank you for sharing. You’re a strong lady and your brother is proud of you and watching over you. I believe it.

    • twosidedcoin on March 3, 2018 at 8:15 pm

      Thank you so much! That was a really personal story and I am glad you shared in my emotions🤗

  18. twosidedcoin on March 9, 2018 at 12:22 am

    Thank you Susan! It was very hard for me to write this piece but thank you for coming along this journey with me🤗

  19. Porfirio Hanz on April 10, 2018 at 6:49 am

    Do you have a Twitter? I’d like to follow you!

  20. Penny M on April 21, 2019 at 6:54 pm

    Just want to say this, sly, no matter where our lives takes us, no matter how many days, months or years we stay without talking to each other one thing I know. In you you I found a true sister and our hearts are connected by love.
    Please know that I truly love you guys.

    • admin on April 21, 2019 at 9:36 pm

      Hey Penny, your words have really touched me more than you even know. I treasure your friendship and your support. One love sis.

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