Posts by TheTwoSidedCoin

How A Scary Hospitalization Reawakened Me

4 mins read One of our favorite lyrics are from an advice-giving song that we discovered many years ago, It says; Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never…

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Society’s Rules Can Ruin Your Relationship. Here Is How.

5 mins read Our path to marital happiness, or at least our version of it, was not traditional. We choose to radically redefine our roles within our relationship and set our own success markers. By doing so, we succeeded in unloading a lot of societal baggage. The fluidity of our relationship is a significant contributor to its success. Our families have slowly come to understand that we do not live by other people’s rules or expectations. We are answerable to no one on how we chose to live our lives. The truth is, they gon’ talk, either way, might as well do you.

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A Look At Bob Marley’s Life and Legacy

11 mins read Bob Marley is a hero to many, an icon of his generation. Heralded as a spiritual leader and even as a prophet to some, he transcended poverty, oppression, and discrimination to emerge as one of the most influential figures of the twentieth century.  He achieved in a score of years what most will not in…

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Don’t Let Your Baggage Ruin Your Relationship. Here is How.

6 mins read In our minds, we tend to think we are the perfect mate, just waiting for the right person to come along. Like me, most of us have little self-awareness when it comes to potential relationship issues. That is the reason we always want to know “why?” when somebody ends a relationship with you. I think we tend to play down our flaws with phrases like “I know I can be a bit (moody/demanding/unreasonable etc) but…” The truth is, we all have baggage that we bring to every relationship. Until you tag your baggage and claim it, you may find your love journey full of turbulence. Find out how I discovered and overcame my heaviest baggage.

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How the Pandemic Devastated Our Relationship and The Surprising Reason It Brought Us Closer

5 mins read Every couple we have talked to have had a different quarantine experience. The one thing they have in common is that they have all learned something new about themselves, their relationships or their partners. Everybody reacts differently to adversity. Some people want all the data so they can draw projections and prepare proactively while others just want to lay in the fetal position and suck their thumbs. We all fit somewhere in this spectrum and how far apart in the spectrum you are from your shelter partner can be a source of major friction. This week we share our unique quarantine journey. A journey that has taken us into the depths of despair and returned us whole. Read this amazing story of discovery and share your experiences with us. We would love to hear from you.

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Extinguishing Old Flames – Bye Regina!

4 mins read I knew deep down that if Regina continued to be a part of John’s life, he and I would not work out. It was a simple case of either her or me. Even though John and I had grown very close, I was still nervous about bringing up the conversation. I knew I was going to have to issue an ultimatum, and there was a good chance that it would not go over well. He once had feelings for her, what if he still did?

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You Don’t Get To Choose The Good Bits And Leave Out The Bad

4 mins read Last week I explained how what attracted me to John ended up being one of his most significant flaws. Read all about it here:. This week I share the second lesson that I learned during our tumultuous storming stage: You don’t get to choose the good bits and leave out the bad. Catch up on the…

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What Attracted You To Them May Be Their Biggest Flaw

4 mins read We fought a lot during what we now call our “storming” stage. As our fights disintegrated into shouting matches, I observed something baffling at the time. A lot of the things that pissed me off were connected to a character trait of his that I had been attracted too. That’s when I realized, “Sometimes what attracted you to the person can actually be their biggest flaw.”
Read all about our earlier hedonistic lifestyle and how it tore us apart.

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